As Halloweekend draws to a close, I want to bring attention to something I noticed over the last few days– and even the month leading up to this wonderfully fun holiday. There are a wide range of costumes for women dressing up for Halloween. I saw some girls wearing baggy sweatshirts and leggings. But I also, and more commonly, saw something that has become a growing trend in the last 40 years, and that would be “sexy” Halloween costumes. I get it, Halloween is a fun time to dress up and be someone you’re not for the night. But I refuse to cross the line into dressing as someone I am completely not. I absolutely do not feel comfortable wearing some of those costumes I saw this past weekend or showing the things that I got a glimpse of. These are my reasons for why I personally will never wear a “sexy” Halloween costume.
Because everyone else is doing it.
Chances are, someone will have the exact same costume as you because you both bought it on Amazon. And everyone at that party probably saw the exact same costume last year. What’s the fun in that? I don’t want to be one of the pack, I want to be original. Wearing your “sexy nurse” (side note– last time I checked nurses generally wear scrubs?) costume doesn’t make you hot, it classifies you as boring and uncreative.
Because coming up with a creative costume is way more fun.
Coming up with a creative and original costume is fun! I enjoy the challenge of thinking of something that nobody has done before, or even taking inspiration from what someone has done in the past and adding my own twist to it. There’s a certain thrill in going to the store to find the perfect pieces for your outfit. It’s almost like a scavenger hunt, like where can I find the best (and cheapest) items to complete my look?
Because I don’t feel comfortable with everything hanging out.
I’m sure some girls do and that’s great, I respect that. I just don’t want to spend the entire night adjusting my outfit, making sure that people don’t get a flash of anything they shouldn’t be seeing. Also, I don’t really desire to have everything out for the world to see. Something about that just makes me uncomfortable.
Because my grandma is friends with me on Facebook.
You can say what you want, that you’ll untag yourself from the photos or not post any of your own, but chances are a photo of you in this costume will end up somewhere on the Internet. People are constantly snapping pics at parties– even if they’re just 10 second Snapchats. I would never ever want my grandma to see me in an outfit like that, and there is always potential for her to see a picture from that night. Also, if I would be embarrassed for my grandma to see me in an outfit like that, why would I wear it in the first place? Another thing that is important to keep in mind is that future employers may come across these photos. I get it, this is overused, but I want whoever my future boss(es) are to think highly of me and I doubt a picture of me dressed up as a schoolgirl will help achieve that.
Because I don’t have the face to pull it off.
I am 5’2″ and my face looks like I’m 3 years younger than I actually am. Although it’s not necessarily a bad thing (hopefully I’ll age well!), there’s nothing sexy about a 15 year old girl. Or at least I would hope. I just simply cannot pull off the “sexy” look no matter how hard I try. I think I’ll just stick to being cute, and for some reason I’m okay with that.
Because the boys you attract with that “sexy” costume are probably not the ones you want to attract.
I think this is pretty self-explanatory. If a guy wants to talk to you because you look great with all your junk hanging out, congrats, you’ve found yourself a grade-A douchebag! I’m not looking for my future husband by any means, but I would much rather talk to a guy at a party who wants to know more about me, not just about how much time and sweet-talking it’ll take to get me in bed with him.
Also, the boys you do want to attract will strike up a conversation about your clever costume.
Having a clever, cute costume will strike up conversation! I learned this on my own this past weekend. I dressed up as Waldo from Where’s Waldo, and there were so many people who made comments like, “Hey! I found you!”. What can they say about a sexy bunny costume? Probably nothing clever. Also, the guys who can come up with clever stuff like this are probably really cool and fun to hang out with.
Because confidence is the sexiest thing you can wear.
I don’t need a sexy costume to be sexy. I am confident. I know my worth. I demand respect and don’t settle for anything else. There’s nothing sexier than that.