For today’s post, I want to reflect on a quote that really hit home for me. I was on Pinterest trying to procrastinate when I found the photo above that I pinned a while ago. You can’t save people, you can only love them. This is something I really needed to hear, not just now but every day.
Every single day, we encounter people who have been from completely different walks of life. Everyone has a different story and everyone has been through some really tough times. We may not be able to relate to the things they’ve gone through or the different perspectives they have, but the least we can do is try to understand where they’re coming from and love them all the same.
For me, one thing that I struggle with is constantly wanting to fix other people’s problems. Lately, I’ve started watching the show Prison Break. Although it’s fictional, I constantly have to remind myself that I cannot fix the personal struggles the characters are going through. Then I remind myself that IT’S FICTION! IT’S NOT REAL! But something in me connects with those characters just like we connect with every real person that walks into our lives. We take on their struggles as our own. It’s human nature to want to fix things and we do that by trying to fix other people’s problems. However, that is completely impossible. We can’t possibly save the world or even a single person. But we what we can do is love them.
When you are loved, you feel a sense of worth and belonging. You feel that your existence actually matters. Some people don’t have anyone to love them at all. I think it’s so easy to take our own experiences and assume that everyone has loving parents and a solid support system of friends, but that’s not always the case. There are many people that feel very alone in this world even if it appears that they are just fine. Being that person for someone can make a world of a difference. It could be as simple as acknowledging them with a smile. Anything that makes them feel worthy when they truly do not.
So I guess what I’m trying to say is that not everyone has had the same experiences as us, and although we can’t fix the crappy problems in their lives we can make a difference. It will probably be a very small difference, and that’s something that I struggle with. It’s hard because you want to fix their problems and make everything okay for them, but the reality is that you absolutely cannot. You can’t save people, you can only love them. And that’s all you can do, but it can make a huge difference.